Marriage is a blessing, but it is also a responsibility. How can we achieve a balance when it comes to taking care of our marriages, our spouses, while also spending time connecting with and worshipping Allah?
The first thing to understand is that marriage is already a form of worship...
Shaykh Yahya Ibrahim answers
The first response, of course, is you have to understand that marriage is an essential ibadah. One of the greatest things that you can do as a husband or as a wife is to adore and to love and to cherish the person who you're sharing, inshaa'Allah, the rest of your life with- [and] who becomes a cornerstone for the community that you live in. The Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa salam) speaks so often about the worship that is found in marriage. Here are three examples.
One, charity. Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa salam) said there isn't anything spent by someone in the family upon their family except it is a charity that they earn reward with Allah for. The Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa salam) said (inna abraqa sadaqa infaak ul-marri’ alaa ahli): ‘Of the charities that have the greatest reward is to spend on one's family’.
Number two is to assist one another in times of need and perseverance. And the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa salam), he said that a person is always in the obedience of Allah (subhanahu wa ta’aala) as long as they are in the assistance of other people and Allah, therefore, then becomes their assistant in life.
The third thing is our cohabitation and the love that we interchange and the physical attention and intimacy that we have. Just like our sins would be earned by stepping outside marriage, there's an enormous reward for showing love, fidelity and contentment with one another. Those are all acts of worship, and how great it is to lead your family in salah and siyam and zakah and hajj. May Allah [foreign language 00:01:36] make you pillars of the community and remember the du'aa of the Qur'ann [25:74] - (Rabbana hab lana min azwajina wa dhurriyyatina qurrata ‘ayoon waj’aalna lil-mutaqeena imaama: ‘Oh Allah, rise up for us and make for us from our families and our loved ones that which will please our eyes, and set us as imaams for others in society’.